Fluidity Research & Resolve

Have you ever seen the often inebriated girls kissing and pulling on each other? Or perhaps the DL brothers hunkered down in the backseat of a car while getting it in? Here EZ and community members attempt to bring awareness to the sexual subculture that is a chameleon culprit in the warfare DC continues to battle in the war on disease control.

Fluidity is nothing new. The Mesopotamians , the Greeks, Ancient Egyptians, European aristocracy (in particular, but not exclusively ),The Imperial Chinese dynasties’ , the Americas (especially during the 20’s-40’s)…every civilization has had some group that floated between sexes under an “uncategorized” sexual orientation.

Note that a majority of these once reigning empires-no longer exist. Whether entirely because of this issue or in part, nations have fallen because of poor sexual choices.

Interestingly the same destructive patterns of behavior survived.

The Academia

Fluidity represents a “capacity to respond erotically in unexpected ways due to particular situations or relationships. It doesn’t appear to be something a woman can control.”

This point is disputed on the mere basis that we are all capable of controlling our urges. The issue becomes whether or not individuals who are choosing to engage in reckless sexual behaviors are using better judgment, self control and discretion to make better choices for themselves and for those around them, who may also be affected directly and indirectly.

Interestingly, most of the people surveyed stated that they had been under the influence of some type of drug or alcohol when they experienced a fluid encounter.

Based on this ascertain-there are environmental factors that contribute to the affect of the individual who reasons that a “mega-rebound” is a viable option for them at the time.

According to CNN.com, Bonnie Zylbergold, assistant editor of American Sexuality, an online magazine a “landmark” study was conducted that revealed during the experiment- the female subjects became sexually aroused when they viewed heterosexual as well as lesbian erotic films. This was true for both gay and straight women. They are attracted to the person, and not the gender — moved by traits like kindness, intelligence, and humor, which could apply to a man or a woman.

Most of all, they long for an emotional connection. And if that comes by way of a female instead of a male, the thrill may override whatever heterosexual orientation they had.

Again the study reveals evident contradictions. What kind of emotional connection is established by engaging in a very temporary sexual tryst with a perfect stranger that is often physically appealing? What kind of emotional connection can be formulated within an hour or two at a venue that is usually a nightclub or some other establishment that creates an environment for some type of anonymity. How can subjects of the study determine traits like kindness, intelligence or humor when watching EROTIC FILMS?

SOURCE: http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/23/o.women.leave.menfor.women/index.html?iref=allsearch

The research that has been “recently released” is nothing more than an elaboration of what others have already said. Sex researcher Alfred Kinsey and his colleagues Wardell Pomeroy and Clyde Martin released research in 1948 with findings that showed people did not fit into neat and exclusive heterosexual or homosexual categories. In fact there was a continuum or spectrum of human sexuality that spanned over ones lifetime.

The chart that Mr. Kinsey and his team created had a range of 0-6. Zero was exclusively heterosexual, One was Predominately heterosexual; only incidentally homosexual and two was predominately heterosexual but more than incidentally homosexual.

SOURCE: http://www.iub.edu/~kinsey/research/ak-hhscale.html

This research sounds a lot more plausible. However, the fact still remains that people need to be more diligent with making better choices.

Reality shows like “Jersey Shore” make this point poignantly clear. Irresponsible sexual practices in general will effectively reduce marriage rates, increase divorce rates, lower healthy birth rates, increase infant mortality rates and impact teenage pregnancy rates.

The Spirit

The research studies are out there to prove that this phenomenon is “normal”. There will be some who will be satisfied with what the researchers say but the ultimate authority on ALL matters states:

THE BODY IS NOT INTENDED FOR SEXUAL IMMORALITY!

“The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you as I did before, that those who live like this ….”

Galatians 5:19

“The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life”

Galatians 6:8

The Adulterous Sisters

Ezekiel Chapter 23

The Choice

Given the information provided- people who are partaking in this type of ‘sexual recreation’ really should take the opportunity to learn more about sexuality, & sexual orientation.

HIV/AIDS rates are off the charts in DC largely as a result of the “Sexual chameleons”. Playing with this is a very serious matter. People are literally losing their lives because their spouse never informed them that they were living a double life, all the while shouting “I AM NOT GAY…I JUST SLEEP WITH THEM SOMETIMES”. Sometimes is all it takes!

Delve deeply and explore the possibility that there may be some unresolved issues stemming from abandonment or early rejection that are causing a “need” to seek the attention of partiers. There may even be a personal battle with one’s own true sexual identity that needs to be talked out with a professional. Perhaps the personal agenda to seem “down with whatever” is undermining potential career and personal opportunities that have been thwarted because someone has seen a picture posted or a behavior that warrants concern.

Some of you are wondering why you didn’t get that promotion. Perhaps somebody saw pictures of you online. Why doesn’t he/she want to marry me? Umm their family member told them they saw your behind all hugged up on someone of the same sex. Why doesn’t my child respect me? They heard and saw you kissing or worse- on somebody of the same sex and it is causing serious gender role questions.

Yes it is extraordinary to see a beautiful human form but that does not mean one must indulge every fantasy because it is tantalizing. Exercise your right to say “no…I’m good”. Explore safe, alternative methods that may arouse similarly. Empowering oneself through their sexuality is absolutely a stage of sexual development. However one MUST be certain to use that power for good and not in ways that will bring destruction to self and others.

Life is short but invariably we must ALL be more responsible for what we put back into the world.

The Resources

1. Sexual Fluidity” is a book written by Lisa Michelle Diamond that provides insight based on several case studies. It is an interesting read but offers no definitive resolutions or conclusions.

SOURCE: http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/discussion/2008/04/09/DI2008040901974.html

2. Good Therapy http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/sexual-fluidity/

3. Flexi-Sexual http://abcnews.go.com/m/story?id=12973190

4. http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Why-Women-Are-Leaving-Men-for-Lesbian-Relationships-Bisexuality/4

5. The Kinsey Continuum

SOURCE: http://www.iub.edu/~kinsey/research/ak-hhscale.html